Resources
Books, podcasts, and videos
we reference.
The body of work our therapy practice operates from. Authors whose frameworks show up in our sessions. Books we hand out. Podcasts we send clients between sessions. Research we cite.
Organized by what you're actually working on. If one catches your attention, follow it. If you want to do the work with a therapist who's reading from the same library, we're here.
If you're working on your relationship
Work with us on couples therapy
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
John Gottman, PhD
Book
Hold Me Tight
Dr. Sue Johnson (EFT founder)
Book
ACT With Love
Russ Harris, MD
Book
The New Monogamy
Tammy Nelson, PhD (infidelity recovery)
Book
Fair Play
Eve Rodsky (domestic labor & partnership)
Book
Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
Esther Perel (podcast: real couples, real sessions)
Podcast
Brené Brown on Empathy (RSA Short)
Brené Brown / RSA
Video
Brené Brown on Blame (RSA Short)
Brené Brown / RSA
VideoIf you're working on your sex life
Work with us on sex therapy
Come As You Are
Emily Nagoski, PhD
Book
Come Together
Emily Nagoski, PhD (long-term partnerships)
Book
Mating in Captivity
Esther Perel (desire in long-term relationships)
Book
Sexual Intelligence
Marty Klein, PhD
Book
His Porn, Her Pain
Marty Klein, PhD (when porn use becomes a couple's conflict)
Book
When Sex Hurts
Andrew Goldstein, MD (pain, dyspareunia, vaginismus)
Book
The Penis Book
Aaron Spitz, MD
BookIf you're healing from trauma
Work with us on trauma and EMDR
The Body Keeps the Score
Bessel van der Kolk, MD
Book
Waking the Tiger
Peter A. Levine, PhD (Somatic Experiencing)
Book
No Bad Parts
Richard C. Schwartz, PhD (IFS)
Book
Rising Strong
Brené Brown
Book
It's Not You
Ramani Durvasula, PhD (recovering from narcissistic abuse)
Book
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
Lindsay C. Gibson, PsyD
BookIf anxiety is running you
Work with us on anxiety
The Happiness Trap
Russ Harris, MD (ACT-based)
Book
Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life
Steven C. Hayes, PhD (ACT founder)
Book
Self-Compassion
Kristin Neff, PhD
Book
The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook
Kristin Neff, PhD & Christopher Germer, PhD
Book
If the Buddha Dated
Charlotte Kasl, PhD (mindful approach to relationships)
Book
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
Mark Manson (counterintuitive approach to living well)
Book
Your body language may shape who you are (TED)
Amy Cuddy / TED
VideoIf depression or shame is running the show
Work with us on depression
If you're making meaning of a life chapter
Work with us on individual therapy
The Four Agreements
Don Miguel Ruiz
Book
Man's Search for Meaning
Viktor Frankl
Book
Breakup Bootcamp
Amy Chan (the science of rewiring your heart after a breakup)
Book
how are you, really?
Jenna Kutcher
Book
The Whole-Brain Child
Daniel J. Siegel, MD & Tina Payne Bryson, PhD (for parents)
Book
The Tipping Point
Malcolm Gladwell (how change happens)
Book
Outliers
Malcolm Gladwell (the story of success)
Book
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay Shetty (podcast)
Podcast
Hidden Brain
Shankar Vedantam (podcast)
PodcastIf you're in a season of womanhood
Work with us on women's therapy
Untamed
Glennon Doyle
Book
Burnout
Emily & Amelia Nagoski (stress cycle and the body)
Book
Good Moms Have Scary Thoughts
Karen Kleiman, MSW (postpartum intrusive thoughts)
Book
Set Boundaries, Find Peace
Nedra Glover Tawwab, LCSW
Book
The Gifts of Imperfection
Brené Brown
Book
We Can Do Hard Things
Glennon Doyle (podcast)
PodcastIf you want writers who already know
Work with us on LGBTQ+ affirmative therapy
If ADHD is finally something you're looking at clearly
Work with us on ADHD and neurodiversity-affirming therapy
ADHD is Awesome
Penn & Kim Holderness
Book
Taking Charge of Adult ADHD
Russell A. Barkley, PhD
Book
Smart but Scattered Guide to Success
Peg Dawson, EdD & Richard Guare, PhD (executive function for adults)
Book
ADHD After Dark
Ari Tuckman, PsyD (sex and relationships with ADHD)
Book
The Willpower Instinct (Talks at Google)
Kelly McGonigal, PhD
VideoHandouts we've made
Clinical handouts our team has created
Printable PDFs we use in session and send between sessions. Free to download, share with your therapist, or keep on your phone.
The Window of Tolerance
A printable client handout explaining the window of tolerance, what hyperarousal and hypoarousal look like in the body, and practical regulation tools for staying inside your window. Useful for trauma work, anxiety work, and anyone learning to track their own nervous-system state.
Boundaries vs. Selfishness
A two-page handout for telling the difference between a boundary (a limit on your own behavior) and selfishness (a demand that someone else change). Includes the 5-C litmus test, examples across six relationship contexts (partner, parent, in-laws, friend, work, adult child), and micro-scripts you can borrow.
In-Law Boundaries: The Couple Team Playbook
A three-page printable plan for couples dealing with a pushy parent-in-law. Includes Couple Team Rules, a Boundary Builder fill-in template, a Script Bank organized by trigger (drop-ins, advice, criticism, holidays, new-baby visits), a five-step Consequence Ladder, and coaching for the partner whose parent it is.
Weekly State of the Union Check-In
A six-page printable couples ritual for a weekly relationship check-in inspired by the Gottman Method. Walks both partners through appreciations, what is going well, a household-logistics reset, plans for joy, one concern raised gently, and a request that would help each partner feel loved this week.
The Stress-Reducing Conversation
A two-page handout for the 30-minute daily couples ritual where one partner unloads external stress (work, family, life events) while the other listens — no problem-solving, no defensiveness. Includes do and don't columns, emotion-matching phrases, and questions to ask if your partner doesn't yet feel understood. Adapted from the Gottman Method.
The Gottman-Rapoport Conversation
A two-page handout for the structured conflict conversation where both partners summarize each other's position to satisfaction before any persuasion happens. Includes when to use it (and when not to), rules for the speaker, the four-step listener protocol (Prepare, Attune, Summarize, Validate), and a soft start-up example.
On our shelf
Some of the books we've reached for most often this year. The stack grows as we read more.
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